LIFE OF A WIFE, A MOTHER

CORETAN SEBELUM RAMADAN

Bangun awal pagi, sebelum org lain bangun. Dan mengharapkan some peaceful time walau didalam bilik air.

Most of the time mmg jgn nak mimpi lar. Bila ada anak kecik ni, bunyi sikit pun dia blh bangun.
Mandi mmg takleh nak tutup pintu lar kalau idak, samada terjerit ketuk² pintu ataupun dia pegi bilik, dia punggah semua dalam almari.

Kalau tak itu, kita tengah mandi, dia akan selak selak langsir mandi tengok kita buat apa. Ok fine...pastu kita pun dah bersiap semua..turn mandikan dia dan siapkan dia pulak.

Yg lelain lepas subuh masih sambung tido.

So bawak kebawah, bagi sikecik makan pula. Sambil kemas apa yg patut dikemas. Lakiku ni tengok hari..selang 3 atau 4 hari, dia gi beli croissants etc. Time nak sarapan, si kecik mengacau lagi. So jd mak ni kita kena multi task..adakalnya mood swing sbb time makan je mmg kita tak dapat makan..so we must know how to handle this. Kaum bapak or lelaki ni mmg lepas tangan jelah sorry to say.

Yg tua pun payah nak cakap..ada pinggan, makan atas alas meja. Kalau kemas sendiri lepas tu takper, ni lepas sarapan tinggal je lah mcm tu..kuli tukang kemas ada kan takper. Pastu blah. Mmg tak ambik tau lar pasal anak ke apa.

So I was left to clear off what ever on the table after breakfast walau dah kemas tadi..tp memandangkan anak kecik dan bapak sekali makan bersepah, mmg kena berkali kali kemas. At times I Wonder, takde rasa kesian ke kat daku eh?

Nak buat kerja rumah dgn anak kecik yg senantiasa buat sepah ni mmg mencabar sbb there is no ending to this.

Abg kakak lepas tu busy dgn class online kat basement to be peaceful. So I was left with cik kak dan nak monitor kak Jade punya study plak. How to control your temper bila kena handle semua. Nak ajar kak Jade..si kecik pulak mengacau panjat meja, semua nak usik..aim box pencil kak Jade. Dah bg barang lain, dia tetap nak yg kakak punya.

Mmg terbantut kak Jade nak study jadinya. Daku at the same time tahan sabar mana kak Jade bertanya itu ini, mana si kecik sungguh² memanjat meja nak kacau.

How to stay focus at the same time when you cant even figure out ways to find out how to produce income at this moment of time kena kuarantin.

Belum habis kak Jade buat Homework, nak focus pun payah..si kecik cari benda lain pula..dgn kak Jade bertanya itu ini...then it was time to cook lunch pulak. Hanya mak mak sahaja faham.

At times berkata sendiri..mudahnya jadi lelaki kan tak perlu ambik tau apa apa pasal anak belajar ke, pasal rumah ke...semua terletak atas bahu isteri utk handle..they expect wife to be presentable, to always listen to them, to always be there for them during their high and fall time but what about the wife? Who cares for them? Marrying a woman just for them to be your slave?

Now I Wonder why lot of women refused to get married...why minah salleh turn to be lesbian. Becoz most men are so unreliable..irresponsable.

A wife for them mean someone to clean the house, to cook..to wash and iron their clothes. Replacing their mother. Kesian jadi perempuan kalau jumpa typical man mcm ni.

Hanging tough for the sake of the kids...sbb tu byk kes, masalah rumah tangga tapi bertahan...demi anak anak...sbb kalau parents divorce, mmg kesan sgt mendalam pada jiwa raga anak anak.

Org perempuan selalu jadi mangsa keadaan...especially dinegara kita, negara Islam. Dimana penunggang ugama hanya pandai bercakap tetapi berat sebelah. Berapa banyak kes kena gantung tak bertali di mana yg jantannya dah ada isteri dan keluarga baru. Isterinya? Susah hidupnya nak tanggung anak lagi. Mana dia penunggang ugama tu? Mata letak kat lutut ke...akui jelah kalau dah salah lelaki… hukum lah...bukan biarkan lepas mcm tu je.

Sbb tu kat sini perempuan tak heran lah kalau lelaki buat perangai sbb they have so many protection.. pun disadvantage jugak sbb no maaf maaf one..fed up ke, ko buat perangai ke, you get lost..sila bayar pension anak anak seumur hidup selagi anak tak kerja. Allocation utk single mom pun ada ..sewa rumah khas utk single mom pun ada...sbb tu dorang tak heran kalau dapat jantan keparat kan..sila berambus...as easy as that.

Us, asian women?? Sabar dan terus bersabar...to those yg Believe in God..akan serah semuanya pada Dia...bersabarlah sehingga hujung nyawa makan hati.

Me? Rebel one dan not mithali who pour herself out in here.
May Allah forgive me and give me strength for days to come.

Adik adik...perkahwinan itu banyak cabarannya...ianya tidak indah yg anda lihat diinstagram atau social media. Yg sweet sweet tu hanyalah lakonan...jd janganlah mengharap kehidupan yg dilayan seperti puteri...tak wujud semua tu...it is all about give and take..how forgiven you are utk terima kekurangan dan kesilapan your partner.

No one gonna buy you flowers every day or even every month or every year. You are left with kids and house to handle and you dont even have time for yourself. You lost your youthful look the moment you enter the marriage life coz in your mind you have so many things to handle so you cant even think about your self.

No more going out with friends..going to the gym or aerobic or whatsoever. And without realising it.. you triple your weight coz your life totally changed. You basially sacrifice your entire life to ungrateful man if you are unlucky. Yg dapat lelaki yg tak punya ciri ciri yg daku tulis tu, so you are damn lucky one.

Sbb majority lelaki sekarang ramai yg tidak berkualiti, pemalas, mencari hamba, bukan isteri.

Dan keluar pulak nanti statment, yg daku tulis ni pasal suami daku. Cuba kembangkan fikiran dan berfikir diluar kotak. Not necessary apa yg daku tulis ni pasal suamiku. Yer dia bukan perfect tapi dia juga ada kelebihan.

It takes two for things to work out.